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What I've been reviewing lately is how hard it can be to fix meals in a time of loss. After a long work day, I find myself staring into the refrigerator and freezer and noticing delicious and healthy supplies—and still not being able to choose. Sometimes when I...

Digging, chopping, pulling, pushing—shovel, hoe, pitch fork, wheel barrow. Working in my weedy vegetable garden in recent days I began to think about the how much this physical effort is a mirror for grief. Mourning the loss of someone or something seems...

In the months after my mom died (nearly 10 years ago) I participated in a grief support group offered by a local hospice facility. One of the takeaways that has stayed with me across the years it to have a plan in advance. That empowering thought—have a...

"What a world! What a world!" – The Wicked Witch of the West In the movie The Wizard of Oz we’ve all watched the as the Tin Man awakens, the monkeys fly, and the Wicked Witch laments "What a World! What a World!" melts. In recent days, in the face of all that seems...

In his book Life's Journeys According to Mister Rogers, Fred Rogers writes: "I saw a friend who's a freelance writer and asked him what he was working on. "Nothing right now," he answered. "You know how it is with freelancers. But at times like this I tell myself I'm...

On my windowsill sits a deep bird nest. Made of mud and straw its original location was in a lean-to barn on my parent's farm. The bird who built the nest took advantage of a hanging roll of barbed wire—high up in the barn, isolated and relatively safe from...

"The man tells his stories so many times that he becomes his stories. They live on after him. And in that way he becomes immortal." - Big Fish Over this past weekend I watched the movie Big Fish. While I won't say anything that might be a spoiler if you haven't seen...

I love fires; campfires and fires in fireplaces. Some of my fondest memories of childhood include the experiences of fires. I grew up in Girl Scouting—and spent fall weekends camping with my troop where our fire was a key feature of creating "home" away from...

I often hear the idea that one should wait a year before making any major decisions after a significant loss. And while well intentioned, this thought often leaves the mourner with an expectation that the one year mark holds some magical opportunity or relief from the...